Why do some people suck all your energy? (Image Source: AI-Generated)
Lifestyle Desk, New Delhi. You have neither run a marathon nor lifted heavy weights in the gym. You just sat and drank tea with a 'special' friend or relative for 15 minutes. But... the strange thing is, as soon as you return home, you feel as if someone has sucked all the life out of your body.
Everything was fine, you were happy, but after meeting that one person, now you just feel like lying in a corner. Is it just your illusion or are you overthinking it?
No, it is absolutely true. Psychology says that some people are actually 'energy vampires'. These are the people who can bring your mental battery from 100% to 1% just by talking, without even touching you. Let us understand this in detail (Why Some People Drain Your Energy).
There is a term in psychology- 'Emotional Contagion'. To put it in simple language, emotions also spread like cold. Our brain works like a 'mirror'. When the other person is constantly complaining, or talking too much negatively, our brain unconsciously starts copying his mood. Their tension becomes your tension and stress hormones start getting released in the body, due to which you get tired.
Just 'me, me and me'
Talking to some people is not a 'conversation' but like listening to a one-way speech. They don't ask you questions, they just talk about themselves - their problems, their illnesses or their brags. When you don't get a chance to engage in conversation, your brain goes into 'passive mode' and starts getting tired. There is a give and take of energy in relationships, when it is one-sided, the battery is sure to go down.
There are some people in front of whom you have to speak very thoughtfully. You are afraid that he might feel bad or start some new drama. When your brain is constantly on alert and weighing every word, it uses twice as much energy as normal. This is called 'cognitive load'. This is the reason that after meeting him you feel that you have done some heavy work.
It is your responsibility to save your 'battery'. This doesn't mean that you stop helping people, but you have to set your limits. Spend less time with such people and more with those who 'recharge' you, not 'drain' you. Remember, nothing is more important than your mental piece.
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